I always thought friendly competition was a good first date.  Playing miniature golf is a definite ice breaker.  Then you can head to dinner where things are lightened up after the golf.  Next, go see a movie (read: not a Rock, Arnold, or other blow shit up movie.  A chick flick...unless you are dating tank girl), and then go get coffee and a good convo afte it.
How's that for a first date? 
