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I would make plans to meet with her, alone, for a short period. Start off by telling her how you feel about her (not what she does - who she is), and how much you care about her.
Then, when it gets time to get into the details - preface your comments with something like, "Please try to not get defensive for a few minutes, but I need to talk to you about something." Then say what you need to say, in a supportive manner. Then give her a hug, get up, and walk away so she has no choice but to let the words sink in. Whatever you do - don't get into an argument over it.
That's all you can do as a friend - let her know you're concerned. Don't try to be like a parent and force anything on her.
Then let her make her choices, and realize you're not responsible for them, or her.
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If you want to avoid 95% of internet spelling errors:
"If your ridiculous pants are too loose, you're definitely going to lose them. Tell your two loser friends over there that they're going to lose theirs, too."
It won't hurt your fashion sense, either.
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