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Old 12-05-2003, 05:45 AM   #13 (permalink)
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Originally posted by analog
You are a girlfriend or a boyfriend when you or the other person you're seeing says it for the first time. You wouldn't say it unless you meant it somewhere deep inside. If you're being introduced, and she says, "this is my boyfriend Sleepy", you have now entered into boyfriend/girlfriend phase, because she feels enough for you in that moment to call you that.
I wouldn't go that far. No one has the right just saying that s/he is now a girl/boyfriend. If you can't even get to the point of talking where you both are viewing the relationship, what's the point of being in one?

As for your follow-up:
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Originally posted by analog
I should have elaborated, I guess. In HER eyes, since SHE called it out, you are now "boyfriend/girlfriend"- which means anyone she talks to or knows at all now knows this as well, whether or not you feel the same way.
Maybe in her eyes: Yes, she thinks she has a boyfriend. but like I said, what is the point of having such a relationship if they haven't even been able to talk freely about it.

In my case, I was 'seeing' my current girlfriend for a couple of months before we talked about making it official. When asked if I had a girlfriend, I would respond that I am seeing someone. I don't know why every one wants to jump into a quick relationship all the time. Like every 3rd thread in TS talks about how "this girl looked at me and I think she likes me". Get to know the people that you are interested in and make sure that you can talk to each other before you try anything serious ... and yes, I do mean sex as well as a relationship.
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