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Originally posted by pyraxis
By that definition, a person who gave up family, career, and dreams to move across the world and be with their partner would be deeply in love.
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It depends on the reason for the move. Example, If I move because I want/ need/ desire to be with someone then the motivation is selfish. Being with the person is more important to me than the other things in my life.
On the other hand if the other person were sick and needed me and I wouldnt want to go under normal circumstances but I moved to take care of that person for unselfish reasons then that is love.
Unselfish reasons rule out things like guilt, psychological self fulfillment, etc. While these selfish reasons may also play a role, love at its core is built of the willingness for self sacrifice for little or no personal gain. A grey area comes in though because of the good feeling that love gives a person which is why love is best seen through pain. Caring for a sick parent shows love when watching that person be sick causes pain but you endure for no other reason than to comfort that person. Sure there are some internal rewards but when the pain outweighs the pleasure but you persist anyway, thats love.