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Honestly, in my opinion, and please don't take this the wrong way, if someone has a problem with eye contact to the point that it's extremely noticeable then that tells me the person lacks a significant amount of confidence. There's no reason to stare into someone's eyes when you speak, but there should be a consistant amount of eye contact when conversing with someone.
I remember hearing about a study a couple years ago that showed that eye contact was a big factor in demonstrating who the "alpha-male" of a one-on-one interation was. (And, by alpha-male, I don't mean that this applies only to males). What was shown was that on a pretty consistant basis, the person who had the power in the social interaction tended to maintain eye contact when addressing the other person, yet did not maintain it when the other person was doing the talking. The opposite held true for the person who was not in control of the situation. Also, they found that the person who did not have control tended to imitate the body movements and posture of the person that did. It was very interesting to hear.
Anyway, my point is, maybe you have a confidence issue. Obviously think about it sincerely - that's not something that most people can admit to themselves very easily if it's true. If you do, or think you may, find a way to build your internal confidence and maybe you'll find it easier to make eye contact.
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