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Originally posted by shakran
If that scars her for life, she already has mental problems and should check into a hospital right now. In the first place, opening her door is NOT terrorizing her.
Are you saying that parents should set rules, but when the kids break them we should ignore the transgression for fear of terrorizing the kids? I seriously hope you never become a parent if that's the case, 'cause your kids are gonna be total monsters.
In the first place, children are not considered to be protected under the constitution. In the second place there is nothing in the constitution that guarantees your right to have sex in your mom's house. And in the third place, I don't care if the sister is 45. If she's still living in mom's house without paying rent, then she's subject to the rules of the house no matter what they are. If she doesn't like it, then she should move out. I guarantee that getting 3 meals a day and having a warm, comfortable place to sleep is more important to her than screwing her boyfriend wherever she wants to.
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It is truly terrorising you child since that is a far more agressive way of handling it than is needed. You obviously don't know much about psychology since you doesn't seem to understand how big importance our parents had to us when we were 17, and how damaging it is to us when they violate our trusts and privacy.
Last time I checked USA had signed the UN's universal decalaration of human rights, which means that it is a valid right for everyone.
What you seem to miss completly here is that children, no matter how young, are still HUMAN BEINGS! Which entitels them to the right of, among other things, privacy. Just because someone is paying the bill doesn't give them the right to do what they please with one who is forced (by society and it's demands) to live under her roof.
If children weren't protected under the law it would be pedophile heaven in the US now wouldn't it??
What I'm saying is that her mother has no right to terrorise her childs privacy, but she has the right to set the rules. She has a right to enforce these rules but not the right to violate her daughters privacy to do so. Her daughter is neither a slave, nor a pet, she has her rights and she has her obligations.
The issue is not wheter her daughter has any right to have sex in her mothers house (that was just me expressing my personal view on her mothers rules) it is wether her mother was right or wrong in the way she handled it.
As I see it she overdid it bigtime. Thereby showing her daughter that she doesn't respect her. If the mother doesn't respect her daughter why the he*l should the daughter respect her and her rules?
Bringing up children is nothing like bringing up a dog.
I did not appreciate your personal attack, it was very rude but says more about you and your capacity to think than any response I could ever give you.