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ObieX · 12-01-2003, 04:18 AM

I'd have to say that you're just growing up. You're going to have less energy and you will be more mature about everything you do (for the most part).

Not everything *is* interesting. There's no point in trying to pretend that something is interesting to you if it isn't. It's just putting on a show for others. And unless you are humoring someone (like a child [oh, thats a nice drawing/cannonball/summersault]) or have some real reason for doing it, its just all fluff. Not everyone likes to do/eat/play the same things. Some people collect stamps.. some people play football.. some do both. *shrugs*

In that same line, not everyone will find *you* interesting. There are billions of people in the world.. some will take the time to get to know the real you, but the vast majority just wont give a shit. They will blow you off as "boring" and not give it a second thought. It is much better to be yourself than to put on a hat that you dont want to wear and pretend to be someone else. Be yourself.

What did you do when you were having fun in the past? Did you play a sport? Were you on a team? Those things naturally open you up to other people. You are working together for a common goal (fun) that you all enjoy taking part in. Joining a local league for whatever activity you enjoy would help you out i think.

As for the online activity, yes it does have a tendency to make people more introverted. You learn to think about what you are going to say/type before you do it. That really isnt a bad thing, but it can make you seem a little dull. This often happens naturally as you age too. I can speak from experience that online games can make you withdraw from people in your life. If they see that you're not around as much, most often they'll take it personally, they'll think it was something they did or that you dont like them or dont want to be around them.

The best way to let people know you care is to tell them. Failing that, lending an ear/hand to problems is probably your next best way. Find ways to become more interactive in the lives of your friends and family. Cook dinner, go out to a movie/sports event.. just be there...

12-01-2003, 04:18 AM	#14 (permalink)
ObieX Pickles Location: Shirt and Pants (NJ)	I'd have to say that you're just growing up. You're going to have less energy and you will be more mature about everything you do (for the most part). Not everything is interesting. There's no point in trying to pretend that something is interesting to you if it isn't. It's just putting on a show for others. And unless you are humoring someone (like a child [oh, thats a nice drawing/cannonball/summersault]) or have some real reason for doing it, its just all fluff. Not everyone likes to do/eat/play the same things. Some people collect stamps.. some people play football.. some do both. shrugs In that same line, not everyone will find you interesting. There are billions of people in the world.. some will take the time to get to know the real you, but the vast majority just wont give a shit. They will blow you off as "boring" and not give it a second thought. It is much better to be yourself than to put on a hat that you dont want to wear and pretend to be someone else. Be yourself. What did you do when you were having fun in the past? Did you play a sport? Were you on a team? Those things naturally open you up to other people. You are working together for a common goal (fun) that you all enjoy taking part in. Joining a local league for whatever activity you enjoy would help you out i think. As for the online activity, yes it does have a tendency to make people more introverted. You learn to think about what you are going to say/type before you do it. That really isnt a bad thing, but it can make you seem a little dull. This often happens naturally as you age too. I can speak from experience that online games can make you withdraw from people in your life. If they see that you're not around as much, most often they'll take it personally, they'll think it was something they did or that you dont like them or dont want to be around them. The best way to let people know you care is to tell them. Failing that, lending an ear/hand to problems is probably your next best way. Find ways to become more interactive in the lives of your friends and family. Cook dinner, go out to a movie/sports event.. just be there... __________________ We Must Dissent.