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Analog puts it harshly, but well. It's not a lack of trust, it's simply an unacceptable possibility. She's not contributing in any way towards the financial aspect of the relationship in the way he is. Sure love means trust, but the flip side is that if she loves him, she shouldn't be worried about money.
Someone earlier said it well, if I had that much and she had that little and she couldn't understand why a prenuptial makes all the sense in the world to me, I'd bet she's just trying to take half of it. Call me cynical.
A prenup doesn't say "You need to use your money for all of your expenses and I won't pay a dime of it." It says, "In the worst possible scenario-which I don't forsee happening-what was originally yours will stay yours and what was originally mine will stay mine. Assuming that worst possible outcome doesn't happen, I will love and care for you and support you with all of my resources and abilities. If that does happen, we'll go our separate ways with what we each brought to the table with an even split of what we've gained since we got together."
She can't expect him to say "I love you and therefore trust completely that we'll never split up" just as he can't expect to her to say "I love you but money is not at all important." Tough call, but I'd say he has the stronger of the two arguments in this case, since the balance of resources is so heavily in his favor. Just my thoughts. Best of luck to him, though.
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