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I am on board. I have been in this thing formally (married) for 2.5 years now. Couple things to check on before jumping in
1. Communication - If you have to lie to buy parts for your Land Rover or Mountain Bike b/c you are afraid of what will happen to you if you told her that you just wanted the parts. Bad sign. If you feel like you can discuss anything (I mean anything) with no fear of retrobution or losing the "upper hand" - good sign. Can't have too much in this catagory.
2. Don't think you are going to change anything - hopefully you will draw closer over time, but don't count on it in any area. In fact, count on any negatives you don't like getting worse only in your calculation of whether or not to get married.
3. Make sure she is not counting on changing you in any areas. Maybe through #1 you can draw closer and be more sensitive to each other's concerns, but if she is going to try to be even a little controling - call it off and give it some time. (run)
Don't ever settle.
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All truth passes through three stages:
First it is ridiculed
Second, it is violently opposed and
Third, it is accepted as self-evident.
ARTHUR SCHOPENHAUER (1788-1860)
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