Well, you love her, and her only. There is nothing in the marriage vows that says you have to love her parents. If she knows how they feel, then perhaps you two can talk about how it makes you feel. I have in my experiance done the same thing with my SO, and she agrees that what her parents are doing is assanine. now we don't visit, we don't call. They only call when they want something, and we put them off. They have not figured it out yet, but when they do, we will explain it – when they are ready to listen. Her mom is the driving force in that unacceptance of me– so her dad is all ok, but the rest of her family is a bunch of @$$h0Le$, they all treat me the same way your in-laws do you. No worries mate, just push through it. Don' t let their opinions shape your relationship with your SO. Make it work, cause you love her, not her parents and family. If you let them get in the way, then your relationship will fail both of you, and the in-laws win! I have had personal experiance of this– my first marriage was railed cause of that. Just pony up, talk to your SO, tell her how you feel, and be a man about it. If she wants you to go, do it for her as one of your many sacrafices of self for her. If you lover her, do just that, love her. Her family, just put up with them during funcions– if you truly love your SO, make it work for you both. In the name of love man, just do her, er uh, it! I have more to share if you are interested in it Prince, PM me. My second marriage is going VERY well. It's all about how you look at it. The in-laws never need know your motiviation. If they are that close minded and ignorant of human emotion and love, all the better reason to show your SO just how much you really do love her– and how a real SO or husband can truly and deeply love. Show her, not tell her, just how much you love her. Show her that her family and father are conditional, and you my friend are unconditional. She will never let you go if you do. If you start setting limits on things (other than discussing your pain with her) then you are showing her that her family is right. Silently show, let your actions be your presentation of your love. Words, gifts, trinkets all with out actions to show it, are meaningless.....
