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sexymama · 11-26-2003, 06:43 AM

Why did I have kids? The first, because I was young and stupid -- fell into lust and got pregnant. I wouldn't trade him for the world. Raising my son alone for the first 6 years of his life was 6 of the happiest years I had. Watching him learn to read, develop a personality and come into his own has given me much joy! Watching him struggle with growing up has given me much pain.

The next two were step-sons. I had them because I loved their father and wanted them too. We raised them together. Okay, I did most the work. Yesterday I got an email from Afghanistan. In it my son said, "I told my major I am who I am because of you." That made it all worth it! (That and the time he toasted me, in front of his biological mother, saying, "to the best mom a kid could ask for!" Ok, it is "bitchy" but -- ha!)

The last two, my daughters, I had because I was so in love with the boys and having a family that I wanted to complete it with a daughter. I ended up with two and would not send either one of them back.

All the hard work, all the pain, all the cost, all the "little triumphs", all the laughter -- every moment is worth it. I especially enjoy when my children snuggle up to me and tell me that they love me. Selfish, maybe -- but that is why I have children. I adore having a family, loving them undconditionally, and being loved! The rewards far out way the struggles!

11-26-2003, 06:43 AM	#29 (permalink)
sexymama My own person -- his by choice Location: Lebell's arms	Why did I have kids? The first, because I was young and stupid -- fell into lust and got pregnant. I wouldn't trade him for the world. Raising my son alone for the first 6 years of his life was 6 of the happiest years I had. Watching him learn to read, develop a personality and come into his own has given me much joy! Watching him struggle with growing up has given me much pain. The next two were step-sons. I had them because I loved their father and wanted them too. We raised them together. Okay, I did most the work. Yesterday I got an email from Afghanistan. In it my son said, "I told my major I am who I am because of you." That made it all worth it! (That and the time he toasted me, in front of his biological mother, saying, "to the best mom a kid could ask for!" Ok, it is "bitchy" but -- ha!) The last two, my daughters, I had because I was so in love with the boys and having a family that I wanted to complete it with a daughter. I ended up with two and would not send either one of them back. All the hard work, all the pain, all the cost, all the "little triumphs", all the laughter -- every moment is worth it. I especially enjoy when my children snuggle up to me and tell me that they love me. Selfish, maybe -- but that is why I have children. I adore having a family, loving them undconditionally, and being loved! The rewards far out way the struggles! __________________ If you can go deeply into lovemaking, the ego disappears. That is the beauty of lovemaking, that it is another source of a glimpse of god It's not about being perfect; it's about developing some skill at managing imperfection. Last edited by sexymama; 11-26-2003 at 06:45 AM..