I've noticed this too. It really does just take both people caring enough about the other person to get over whatever hurdles come along. Some of the biggest arguments I've had recently have been over things that are really trivial and silly. Personally, I've really been working on communicating direct feelings instead of him having to guess at them, and it seems to me that he's working on not sweating the small stuff so much. I've noticed recently that if we get into an argument that's really silly, he'll end up accepting just as much blame in the end that I do. I've learned that sometimes he says "I'm sorry" without words. Basically, both people hace to work on it.
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