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Find something to make fun of... sarcasm is a great bonding tool. Maybe that sounds sick, but I think that if you both find things that you don't like from the beginning then you'll probably have more in common than if you like the same things but totally different things bother you. So, I start with humor, then I find an interest... for me, literature, philosophy, music, politics, poetry, creative writing in general, pop culture (movies, television, etc), and other personal life stuff (stories, other events going on).
Don't start with intense personal stuff, it is creepy and over-exposure. You have to give room for someone to get to know you, create some mystery about yourself. You have to dangle the carrot a little, when I started to get to know my last girlfriend before we went out I'd end conversations by saying "oooh! next time let me tell you about this ____."
Basically, be creative.
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