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I lost a friend when the possibility of a relationship grew between me and his girlfriend. We hung out quite a bit and he had been abusive to her in the past. I always advised her to get out of the situation. Some have said I should have been more loyal to him and not offered such advice. To me, morally, I couldn't not offer that advice.
When I went to visit them after a business trip, I spent most of the weekend with her while he worked (not my idea, and I didn't know that before going to visit) and things got ugly. When the three of us went out to a bar and he went to the men's room, she leaned in and said "You can kiss me, if you want." I said no way and thought that was it.
I left the next day and a few months later we were all at a party together. The girlfriend and I sat down to talk about what happened and my friend went ballistic. I felt I didn't cross any lines but apparently he did. I didn't tell him about it since I attributed it to her being drunk and us spending so much time together that weekend.
He felt betrayed and I felt insulted by his thought that I had betrayed him.
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