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Originally posted by txlovely
NEVER EVER let her discuss their relationship with you. That will most definitely push things in a completely different direction. Walk the fine line carefully...
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While it's not fun to hear and may be a little straining on the friendship, this is good advice. Either of them may want to come to you as a disinterested third party at times for advice. Unfortunately, you're not a disinterested third party. You're someone who likes and respects both people. When one person goes to another for advice, they're usually seeking out a sympathetic ear who will tell them the things they've already decided. You won't be able to tell both of them what they want to hear.
Also, never buy her an expensive gift because you have the money at the time and your friend doesn't. It seems like such common sense advice, doesn't it? A friend of mine in high school actually thought that I would understand his giving my girlfriend a pair of diamond earrings. If I had gone to the store with him to pick them out and had been allowed to deliver them as a joint gift, things would have been fine. As it happened, I didn't speak to him for over a year, I believe.