Jizz-Fritter

I tell people that I'm bi, just so they know I'm a switch hitter at heart (still a virgin), but I don't like sexual labels. It's convenient for humans to stuff people in preordered pigeon holes, but behavioral (certainly sexual) categories are unnatural by nature. The closest thing we have is the Klein scale of sexuality. This was developed in the 1950s, of all times:

0 - exclusively straight
1 - mostly straight
2 - straight, but strongly bisexual
3 - bisexual
4 - gay, but strongly bisexual
5 - mostly gay
6 - exclusively gay

This scale can be applied to physical attraction, romantic interest, fantasy, behavior, ideal behavior, and other subcategories of sexuality. Believe it or not, married men who have great sex with their wives go to adult bookstores and glory holes to get their dicks sucked by people who know what it feels likes, and just because a woman calls herself a lesbian, it doesn't mean that she doesn't have sex with men. Gays and lesbians are infamous for living together and having sex, but persuing love inside their genders.

I've been attracted to both sexes since I was 10, but I didn't come out to myself until my senior year of high school, and I didn't come out to my friends until my freshman year of college. I still have to work on the family, though.

I went through the same porn cycle that was talked about earlier. I started off watching vids of guys jerking off, then graduated to oral, then to anal. I would get the urge to watch gay pron, download it, jerk off, then delete the files out of shame/disgust. Three days later I got horny again, downloaded THE SAME videos from THE SAME place, jerk of, and deleted out of shame.

It took a while to be completely ok with it, and being out to your friends is a part of it. If you can tell people that you are attracted to both sexes, then you are on your way to being past the shame. America is a very macho culture that doesn't want to deal with the ambiguity of being a sexual being.

Here's some advice for you: you don't have to go to gay guys to get some action. You can get straight guys to do just about anything if they are horny enough. Start out watching pron with one of your friends. Then after a while, whip your dick out, start yanking, and PRETEND THAT IT IS ABSOLUTELY NORMAL. He will be uncomfortable for a few minutes, then he will become more comfortable, then he will pull his out. Then out of no where, you move your hand over and start wanking him. Again, his immediate reaction will be "wtf?", but once he finds out how much better someone else's hand feels, then he get into it and return the favor.

If you ask him if you can jerk off togther, HE WILL SAY NO. If you give guys time to think about it, they WILL reject you. But if you let him know what it feels like before he has time to think about it, he will oblige.

Gay guys will try to seek emotional connection whether you want it or not. Straight guys will keep it on the dl, because they don't want their straight status compromised.

If you want some gauranteed action, go to adult bookstores and theaters.

Don't worry about labels. The reason you have sexual contact is because it feels good, not because it is apart of your sexual identity.

I will be making a t-shirt soon that says, "[front]bisexual chocolate, [back]taste the future". With every year that passes, sexuality becomes more and more vague and acceptable, so "functional" bisexuality should become the wave of the future. (/pipedream)

Good luck.

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