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erion · 11-18-2003, 05:36 AM

It sounds to me like you guys just need to spice things up a little.

My wife an I have been married for a little more than five years. We were together for two years before that, and every now and then we'll start to get into a rut, so to speak. It takes a few weeks for us to notice that sex is losing its luster, and she takes notice as frequently as I do, if not moreo.

There are any number of ways to freshen up your sex lives. Get some toys. Massages. Nice Naked carpet picnic. Play Strip poker with "penalties." Since you say you have to plan things, plan a stay at a hotel. Pack a bag of "goodies" and try a few different things. Check in at different times to keep the desk clerk guessing.

Hell, all our latest rut needed to get things going again was a little cohabitational time in the shower. Warm, wet & slippery and it allowed us to explore each other's body again in a fun way. We didn't even dry off when we got out of the water -- just jumped into bed and made a giant wet spot. Also, get a bean bag chair -- a quality one is sturdy and allows for lots of interesting variety as far as positions are concerned.

Don't feel bad about masturbating, either. Talk to your wife and you may be surprised whatshe tells you. The first time we admitted to one another (before marriage even) that we were playing with ourselves when the other person wasn't around it led to a fun night of "I'll show you mine if you show me yours."

The fact that you're finding a need to fantasize about someone else convinces me even more that you need a little change-up in the bedroom. Maybe move things to the kitchen? There is no room in our house that we have not had sex in, and sometimes that's all that's needed to spice things up.

I guess what I'm saying is that every married couple will have ups and downs. That's with everything -- not just sex. What you have to do is talk about whatever it is and make compromises to get things working the way you want it again.

I'm sure if you bring this up, you may find that she's feeling the same way and has some of the same concerns that you do.

11-18-2003, 05:36 AM	#2 (permalink)
erion Psycho	It sounds to me like you guys just need to spice things up a little. My wife an I have been married for a little more than five years. We were together for two years before that, and every now and then we'll start to get into a rut, so to speak. It takes a few weeks for us to notice that sex is losing its luster, and she takes notice as frequently as I do, if not moreo. There are any number of ways to freshen up your sex lives. Get some toys. Massages. Nice Naked carpet picnic. Play Strip poker with "penalties." Since you say you have to plan things, plan a stay at a hotel. Pack a bag of "goodies" and try a few different things. Check in at different times to keep the desk clerk guessing. Hell, all our latest rut needed to get things going again was a little cohabitational time in the shower. Warm, wet & slippery and it allowed us to explore each other's body again in a fun way. We didn't even dry off when we got out of the water -- just jumped into bed and made a giant wet spot. Also, get a bean bag chair -- a quality one is sturdy and allows for lots of interesting variety as far as positions are concerned. Don't feel bad about masturbating, either. Talk to your wife and you may be surprised whatshe tells you. The first time we admitted to one another (before marriage even) that we were playing with ourselves when the other person wasn't around it led to a fun night of "I'll show you mine if you show me yours." The fact that you're finding a need to fantasize about someone else convinces me even more that you need a little change-up in the bedroom. Maybe move things to the kitchen? There is no room in our house that we have not had sex in, and sometimes that's all that's needed to spice things up. I guess what I'm saying is that every married couple will have ups and downs. That's with everything -- not just sex. What you have to do is talk about whatever it is and make compromises to get things working the way you want it again. I'm sure if you bring this up, you may find that she's feeling the same way and has some of the same concerns that you do.