Nuptial Joy...or not?
I've only been married six months, so I guess I'm ahead of myself on this one. A common topic here, I'm sure, but I'd appreciate comments from other married folk or people in long-term relationships.
It's about sex, obviously. Marriage seems to have taken the edge off of it...for now, anyway. And I can't help but worry that this is how it is and I should just get used to it. Join the ranks of the millions of hubbies jacking off in the bathroom just to stay sane.
It's not that there isn't any sex. There is. About 3-4 times per each 7-day week. That's not bad, no, but it's not quite like it used to be before wedlock; we'd have sex every day, usually twice a day, or more if we could handle it. One of us might wake the other up at 5 am, and we'd go again like bunnies.
It's less spontaneous now, we have to "plan" it if we're to have it at all. Obviously I can't blame it solely on marriage, our life together is more hectic now than it was before we got married. Still, having heard so many horror stories about married sex life, it is hard to take this in stride.
What's worse, to me, is that increasingly often I've to fantasize about "random sexual encounters" during our love-making, or I can't reach climax. By random encounters I mean the kind of stuff us blokes think about when we jack off... Girl next door, somebody's mom, pick your poison, you know what I mean.
This really bugs me because my wife's beautiful, she's sweet and sexy and all that I could, and do, want in a woman. So I am guessing it boils down to how insecure or uncertain I feel about our sex life at this point in time. I dunno. Is there anyone out there with any similar experiences?
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