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I read somewhere (sorry, can't state the sorce right now) that a good sex life effects about 5% of marital happiness; whereas bad sex effects about 70% of the marriage. Unfortunately, I disagree with sillygirl, sex is very important! Yes, you married your husband for more than just sex; but your sex life has an effect on your intimacy which has an effect on your relationship.
Please try talking to your husband in a non-confrontational way and not during sex. Let him know that you value and miss the great sex you use to have. Let him know specifically what you like and be ready to negotiate to meet his needs and have him meet yours. If the church is getting in the way of a good sex life, I don't know what to say. After being in a marriage with a "just okay" sex life and now being with Lebell and being truly fullfilled sexually -- I would never go back! But you need to make the best decision for you. Best of luck!
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If you can go deeply into lovemaking, the ego disappears. That is the beauty of lovemaking, that it is another source of a glimpse of god
It's not about being perfect; it's about developing some skill at managing imperfection.
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