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I don't know the whole of your situation, so take this with a grain of salt. Here's my $.02:
You were both incredibly young and emotionally/mentally fucked up when you started dating. There's a difference between "I love you to the depths of my soul" and "you're familiar and mesh well with my own neuroses." This doesn't sound like it has ever been a healthy relationship (by your own admission neither of you acknowledged the underlying mental health issues) and it's just gone downhill fast. Do the two of you together make each other better people, or do you just put up with each other in a way you wouldn't expect other people to? Did you sustain each other through hard times, or were you just familiar wallpaper behind each other's emotional upheaval? Regardless, she's made choices about the relationship that have pretty much put it in the "irretrievable" category, IMHO. I'd say what you both need is distance and professional help. She clearly needs help - self-destructive behavior culminating in a suicide attempt - and is in no position to be entering ANY kind of long-term relationship till she gets straightened out for her own good. Likewise, dealing with her problems probably keeps you from having to deal with your own. I think you're better off wishing her well and offering to support her in getting whatever help she is willing to take, and then calling it quits for a while, at least until you both (but especially she) are more stable.
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