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tommy thompson · 11-16-2003, 04:38 PM

I say, attempt to conact her one last time. By mail if possible. Tell her that you felt an actual connection, mind to mind perhaps. Ask why she is avoiding you. Keep a copy of this letter for yourself. If she does not answer, make the the answers yourself, be as honest as you think she would answer. Then burn up your copy of the letter and be done with her. The only thing you will have to remember to be strong on, is that if she does call back sometime down the road, take the call, but make sure she understands she cannot have you anymore, she had the chance to make something of you two and chose to disregard it. If she cares about you in the least, she will get ahold of you after she gets her letter. There may be a bit of her mum getting in the way as well, her mum may not like you– and she could be thinking the exact same things as you right now. Take your pick in either case, either write her a letter, or contact her in public somewhere and call her on the carpet. If neither of these things sound applicable, then just cut your potential loss and move on. I know for a fact that not all women are the same. They stereotype us guys by our worst examples (your ex chum) and we may pin stereotypes on women in general for a womans actions (such as your case) or worse. Thing is, is that you have to evaluate what you want, what you will accept, and what you will not tolerate anymore. You have to make these decisions and act upon them. Think long term, not short term. If you plan for the long term, you may just find that special someone, no games, no frills, only a good and strong relationship. Now don't get discouraged and write off hte whole female population. A fact of life is this: as we get older, we become MORE desierable to women in general. We become more mature, finacially stable, etc. Women on the other hand become LESS desierable, gain wait, get wrinkles, soured attitudes from getting played like they played so many men themselves. I say make your list of what you will and won't accept and act upon it. Don't make a whole plan, cause you need to stay flexible in your plans, cause things change. But make your decision today about what you want, are willing to accept and are not. AND DON'T CHANGE THOSE DECISIONS. Stick to your guns man, and you will live life, life won't live you!

11-16-2003, 04:38 PM	#30 (permalink)
tommy thompson Psycho	I say, attempt to conact her one last time. By mail if possible. Tell her that you felt an actual connection, mind to mind perhaps. Ask why she is avoiding you. Keep a copy of this letter for yourself. If she does not answer, make the the answers yourself, be as honest as you think she would answer. Then burn up your copy of the letter and be done with her. The only thing you will have to remember to be strong on, is that if she does call back sometime down the road, take the call, but make sure she understands she cannot have you anymore, she had the chance to make something of you two and chose to disregard it. If she cares about you in the least, she will get ahold of you after she gets her letter. There may be a bit of her mum getting in the way as well, her mum may not like you– and she could be thinking the exact same things as you right now. Take your pick in either case, either write her a letter, or contact her in public somewhere and call her on the carpet. If neither of these things sound applicable, then just cut your potential loss and move on. I know for a fact that not all women are the same. They stereotype us guys by our worst examples (your ex chum) and we may pin stereotypes on women in general for a womans actions (such as your case) or worse. Thing is, is that you have to evaluate what you want, what you will accept, and what you will not tolerate anymore. You have to make these decisions and act upon them. Think long term, not short term. If you plan for the long term, you may just find that special someone, no games, no frills, only a good and strong relationship. Now don't get discouraged and write off hte whole female population. A fact of life is this: as we get older, we become MORE desierable to women in general. We become more mature, finacially stable, etc. Women on the other hand become LESS desierable, gain wait, get wrinkles, soured attitudes from getting played like they played so many men themselves. I say make your list of what you will and won't accept and act upon it. Don't make a whole plan, cause you need to stay flexible in your plans, cause things change. But make your decision today about what you want, are willing to accept and are not. AND DON'T CHANGE THOSE DECISIONS. Stick to your guns man, and you will live life, life won't live you! __________________ ...a wandering soul...