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Originally posted by Eowyn_Vala
Most women don't do this on purpose. Sometimes we don't know how to say things, or what to say exactly. If you listen to her and pay attention, she normally is saying something, and telling you.
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But therein lies his problem. She's performing a common social symptom of personal responsability avoidence that's endemic of a larger social problem between our generation of both genders (Ie 18-25 yrs of age). Unfortunatly she, like many, never learned how to deal with an unpleasant situation and has always been taught that it's okay to avoid something that's intensly uncomfortable. Even worse is the that she may in fact believe she is doing the right thing. I won't genralize genders, because both do this in spades.
However, it worries me intensly that my peers cannot come to terms with dealing with that which they may find unpleasant and have learned a lifetime of (and excuse this generalization) PC crap that has taught them that no one should have to do things that make them uncomfortable.
I think her actions are less about honesty (though that is important) and more about an inability to deal with something unpleasant.
That it should have to be infered from her actions as a result of her fear of dealing with something so unpleasant (and it real isn't that horrible) as telling him she's not interested instead of her verbalizing in a straight forward way is a defect in character that does affect a persons ability to be honest or deal with their own emotions. After all, they've spent a lifetime avoiding dealing with the less pleasant things that will have to be dealt with at some point.
