I have a story:
My girlfriend that I went out with for 4 months would have a breakdown about once every 3-5 weeks. In this time, no matter what was going on between us and how good things were, she'd tell me that she was thinking of ending our relationship. Now, I learned that her father was in and out of her life since she was a little girl and he recently died... I thought that if I was understanding and caring and patient enough it would make a big difference and things would work out.
I was wrong.
After the 4th breakdown, she stopped talking to me for 13 days. I sent two serious e-mails telling her what I thought she was doing and why I thought that trying to work through things with me would be good for her because this is a problem that she'll have to deal with for the rest of her life, and she might as well do it with someone who loved her. In the end, she e-mailed me her decision after much silence:
"Will,
Just let me go.
-S"
This has been very painful because she grandly declared for a span of about 2 1/2 months that she loved me and told me more and trusted me more than anyone else ever. Which, is why she left me, I believe. Love, patience, honesty, and understanding isn't enough sometimes... but don't take it personally if anything like this happens to you. Just move on knowing that she really cares about you or loves you, and that this is the best she can do.
If at all possible, I think in the future I will move really slowly from here on out... which is easier said than done, as I am well aware.
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Innominate.
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