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ForgottenKnight · 11-13-2003, 04:50 PM

I was very similar in being shy but not antisocial.... but one of my friends thought I was antisocial... I met the people on my floor of the dorm because they were so outgoing in trying to make friends.
First, talk with your roommate and tell him that the next time people come by and you're there, then you want to meet them, so don't turn them away. Come up with a set of rules that you can both agree on for you both to follow with guests. Make sure it allows you to have guests over. It's your room too, so don't let him control everything. If you two have trouble comming up with an agreement, get your RA involved. That's what they're there for. If you still can't come to an agreement, you may want to change to another dorm or something.
Second, go out into the hall and hang out, do homework, and whatnot. Then just say hi to anyone who walks by. Some of them will even be the first to say hi to you. Try striking up a conversation with your neighbors when you see them comming and going. Once you start saying hi and whatnot as they pass or as you pass them in the hall, it should become easier to start talking with them and making some friends.
Third, in your classes, talk with anyone who sits around you. Just intoduce yourself and try striking up a conversation. It becomes easier the more times you try it. Don't get discouraged if the other person doesn't want to talk though! Just keep trying. The best way to make friends in your classes is by seeing if anyone wants to study or do the homework as a group. It's funner to do stuff as a group, and you can make some great friends in your major and similar majors that way!
Fourth, follow mirevolver's advice! There are TONS of clubs and sports out there! There's at least one thing for everyone! So find one you're interested in, and join it! You make some great friends that way, and you know that you already have something in common before even meeting them!

I may not have one specific group of friends, but rather now have many groups of friends. One in my classes for hanging out with, another in my classes for doing homework with, another in my sport, Fencing, a fourth group of friends to hang out with that originated in my sport, and then I know a lot of other people around from when I lived in the dorms, from work, and from everything else. It can take time, but if you keep trying, eventually everything will fall into place. So hang in there! There is always hope!

11-13-2003, 04:50 PM	#8 (permalink)
ForgottenKnight Jesus Freak Location: Following the light...	I was very similar in being shy but not antisocial.... but one of my friends thought I was antisocial... I met the people on my floor of the dorm because they were so outgoing in trying to make friends. First, talk with your roommate and tell him that the next time people come by and you're there, then you want to meet them, so don't turn them away. Come up with a set of rules that you can both agree on for you both to follow with guests. Make sure it allows you to have guests over. It's your room too, so don't let him control everything. If you two have trouble comming up with an agreement, get your RA involved. That's what they're there for. If you still can't come to an agreement, you may want to change to another dorm or something. Second, go out into the hall and hang out, do homework, and whatnot. Then just say hi to anyone who walks by. Some of them will even be the first to say hi to you. Try striking up a conversation with your neighbors when you see them comming and going. Once you start saying hi and whatnot as they pass or as you pass them in the hall, it should become easier to start talking with them and making some friends. Third, in your classes, talk with anyone who sits around you. Just intoduce yourself and try striking up a conversation. It becomes easier the more times you try it. Don't get discouraged if the other person doesn't want to talk though! Just keep trying. The best way to make friends in your classes is by seeing if anyone wants to study or do the homework as a group. It's funner to do stuff as a group, and you can make some great friends in your major and similar majors that way! Fourth, follow mirevolver's advice! There are TONS of clubs and sports out there! There's at least one thing for everyone! So find one you're interested in, and join it! You make some great friends that way, and you know that you already have something in common before even meeting them! I may not have one specific group of friends, but rather now have many groups of friends. One in my classes for hanging out with, another in my classes for doing homework with, another in my sport, Fencing, a fourth group of friends to hang out with that originated in my sport, and then I know a lot of other people around from when I lived in the dorms, from work, and from everything else. It can take time, but if you keep trying, eventually everything will fall into place. So hang in there! There is always hope! __________________ "People say I'm strange, does that make me a stranger?"