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First, staying single is not the most practical way to do things. After copulation there is gestation,birth and then infancy.For at least three years after sex, the life of a child is dependent on the survival of it's mother, who is dependent on her family group. Back in the day (that part of our evolution when we got set in our human ways) man did not have the same number of mating opportunities (not that today your chances are any better) that he has now so, spreading his seed far and wide never happened. Early man's best bet was to see that his mate could care for their child. Attraction makes you want to care for something.
What keeps a more self aware human needing the opposite sex? I'm 24 and my SO is 27,we don't want kids but our relationship is important to us. I am not a man. I don't listen like a man. I don't offer comfort like a man and I don't relate like a man would. Women are the half of the human experience that is not a threat.Since there is no competition there is more room for communication (what most of our brains are devoted to).
Women and men relate to one another in a way that makes us feel successful in the most basic way.My boyfriend could have a shity day at work, his buddies will buy him a beer and tell him to walk it off, nothing that he hasn't been telling himself. He comes home to me and will take care of some need I have,like fixing a toaster or some guyish thing, that allows him to feel successful and needed,neutralizing inadequacies at work.
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