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Whether it is your fault or their fault depends on exactly what those expectations are. For instance, monagamy is implicit in a relationship - you each expect the other to love only each other (unless explicitly state and agreed to otherwise). If someone cheats on you, is it your fault that they were unable to 'live up to your expectations'? There are a lot of basic expectations that should be met by anyone.
And frankly, you have to have standards (ie, expectations of their behavior). If they don't meet them, you don't marry them. You have to make sure that they are good enough for you. Does that sound arrogant? Sure, but it's true. Everyone has their standards, and if the person doesn't meet them you can't possibly love them - you will always find them lacking and inferior. A relationship simply can't survive under those conditions.
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