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There is a person I’ve had a friendship with practically my whole life. She’s the sister I didn’t have by blood. 2 years ago she became involved with a man who I can’t even begin to define. After a couple black eyes she took my advice and got a restraining order. Although she was never physically attacked he continued to harass her in ways that kept him just outside of being arrested. 4 months ago her young daughter said this creep was waiting outside her school when she was released. The girl got a ride home from a carpooling mom, but she didn’t see him talk to her. The authorities were notified and his response was he was walking that way and was not on school grounds; and simply said “hello” to her. He was charged because he wasn’t even allowed to do that, but was out of jail a week later.
Her car was vandalized and had a substance poured into the gas tank ruining the engine. Dead animals have been left at her doorstep and other things I won’t mention. Due to the fact there has never been a witness and this person had an “alibi” each time, the individuals that are hired to serve and protect had their arms crossed. I installed a surveillance system both in and outside of her home. It remained quiet for a brief amount of time, until she and her daughter came home to find their dog dead on their doorstep; someone had given it a piece of meat with poison. Again the authorities were notified, and she was notified that an investigation would be underway. They did state that without incriminating evidence; circumstantial would do little good even if it existed.
A couple weeks ago she had an unmarked card with hotdogs and smiley faces on it and nothing else.
The physical assaults sustained nearly sent me over the deep end. I became a little pissed when she didn’t report him---and that’s ultimately her choice. She did however know when it was time to drop this loser; the only problem did not know what kind of a psycho he was. I’ve been grinding my teeth a long time, both at the man and the police. When I found out he talked to the girl is when I spent the night in jail for assault. He slept like a baby in his own bed that night—it’s probably just as well. I spent a pretty penny and attended 10 hours of anger management (mandatory) to have the charges dismissed (although they never truly are) He attempted to sue me and lost. I think the violation may have helped there. The dog . . . . I won’t comment what went through my mind. No; there was no proof, but I know it was him or someone associated with him.
I care about my career, my life, and desire to be a giver over being a taker in life. The amount of restraint I’ve placed on me has been great. I will also add this man does have a wealthy bank account---which he inherited. I think this places him in a certain light in the eyes of some. While some may know him for what he is; there’s many that don’t. When I saw the card; it’s almost as if an autopilot kicked in.
2 wrongs don’t make a right. It was an immature and malicious thing to do. I understand that in some cases of spouse battery and harassment the inflicted is just as much to blame because of fear and self worth issues---although I still have no mercy for the aggressor. That is not the case here. Legal channels have been taken, and for the most part have failed. I think many would be shocked in the 2 people I approached for advice before doing my intended action. Although neither could assist me because of what their professions are, both thought it was justified and offered the assistance in other ways.
At the end I feel bad and need to evaluate allot of things. I believe in karma as well. I suppose that when this took place (in the moment) I was willing to accept the cosmic consequence that I would be bestowing upon myself. I remember something a sensei told me a long time ago: “I will do my best not to physically engage with a person. There does come a point when deflection no longer becomes an option and the person becomes an opponent. It is then the person’s poor judgment that they realize to late; they are not an opponent but an enemy. Because I have no true hatred for anyone I will physically inflict enough tactical damage to them that the memory of the experience never leaves them. In doing so it will assist them in perhaps not repeating the same action to someone that will kill them or save someone else from being harmed”.
My fear of legal recourse from this extends as far as me putting the experience up on a public forum. Do I care if I have damaged this person in this dark action? I don’t know. I have learned a couple things. At this point and with the help of some friends much wiser than I will let Karma run its course and feel confident things will work out as they should.
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To confine our attention to terrestrial matters would be to limit the human spirit.- Stephen Hawking
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