analog

Absolutely.

I'm not trying to dig on you, and perhaps it could be phrased a bit better so as not to sound so harsh, but I think we're all trying to help you understand what's really going on here.

First of all, MOST women do NOT think they're "hot", and MANY of them do not even consider themselves "beautiful" or even "attractive". Most would say "ok" on a good day. Being overly self-conscious is one of the biggest female problems, it's a HUGE percentage of the female population. And even those that think they're "hot" usually have at least a few things they'd love to change if they could. P.S.- Also do not be lead to believe that a woman who thinks she is hot is hot to you, that's why we all have our own opinions- makes this place we call earth kinda neat.

If you can get a woman (other than those few who actually already think they're "hot") to think she's beautiful to you, that's something that mutual attraction and love can build on. If she thinks you see her as the most beautiful girl you've ever seen, her confidence soars and her outlook on things can change for the positive. After all, how wonderful a guy are YOU, who thinks she is so gorgeous? There's a reason all love stories revolve around the idea that the guy repeatedly tells the girl how beautiful she is, and girls are much happier in relationships where she truly knows how much she's loved for her beauty to her man (or woman- please substitute as needed if you're bi or a lesbian or hermaphrodite or other, thank you ). And, yes, beauty can factor in personality. If someone is not quite your type, but you connect deeply with the personality, their looks suddenly become so much better to you because of it.

Also, a lot of guys who ARE so "attractive", or at least not "average-looking", as you put it, are full of themselves, and that's not what (most) girls looking for something substantial are looking for. Girls looking for a guy with a good heart and personality, etc. are REALLY REALLY GOOD at separating those with, and those without. Of course physical attraction plays a part, but not THE part. And, unfortunately, many guys who are better than "average-looking" take beautiful girls for granted, and don't give their beauty the attention it definitely deserves. An average guy will be a LOT more lilely to remind his hot girlfriend how hot she is a LOT more often. And if that's not enough, here's this: if a guy is just looking for a hot chick, he'll "put up with" her personality, but never really connect on that deeper level, and most people can't (and shoudln't) live with a relationship like that.


No offense to Plan9 or anyone who enjoys reading his stuff, but his tips and tricks are for hookups only, not relationships, and you should keep that in mind. If you do all the stuff he suggests, it <b>might</b> get you laid, but it's insincerity will be plain to see if you actually start to develop a relationship with a girl. The reason it's insincere is because it's a <b>method</b>. It's not YOU. It's a "way to get laid", it's a set of instructions. Just be YOU, and you'll get what's truly important- love.