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I think you need to respect your girlfriend's decision if you really love her and if she's really important to you. But on the other hand, if her reply is simply "moral reasons" and she won't elaborate, you need to find out what's behind that.
I'm all about people embracing their sexuality, but you don't need to have sex to be a sexual person or in touch with your sexual side. I was one of the most sexually comfortable people in the world before having sex. I waited for a meaningful relationship to have sex for the first time, and I don't regret it in the slightest. Having intercourse merely added another dimension to my sexual self.
That said, perhaps there are other reasons behind her decision to wait. Sometimes we women are waiting for that "right" moment and that "right" person. I've had friends break their "no sex before marriage" rule because they did find that "right" person. I've had friends regret not waiting because it turned out it wasn't the "right" person/time. If you are the "right" person, there's no way to really know. She will know when the time is right, and you shouldn't push her.
Another friend of mine chooses to wait because she has a deep-seated fear of getting pregnant. She wants to establish a career before having sex.
So my advice is to back off. If it's meant to happen, it will. If you guys are meant to be together, you will. But most importantly, emphasize that you love her and respect her decisions. But definitely find out why her decision is what it is.
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