women definately. of course, i think this is shit, and no one should control it. it should be equal. i don't like power role games but there's really no way getting around it. it's definately true that the person least attached is the one 'in control' and in general, i think females have a higher ability to detach or handle a breakup. it's the same concept for friendship. after HS, males tend to keep their friends a lot more than woman. i think its just a lot easier for women to go their seperate ways with people.
i also like to think of it in an evolutionary sense. the women have to pick the alpha male, so they are in control. we are much more selective about our mates because we have to think about the best possible match for procreation and that maternal instinct. similarly, males are less selective because their prerogative is to spread their genes as much as they can.
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And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.
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