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I am a bit biased on this, seeing that I am a single mother, and I would never want someone to base my merits as a mate on wether I had offspring or not. Fact of the matter is, with divorce so rampant these days, it's hard not to find someone with a child or two already.
Although, I do date and interact differently now that I do have a child, I would never pick some guy up at a bar and bring him home. I have a daughter to protect and a life to nurture, and that type of behavior isn't something I want her to see.
It takes a very special, mature, and well-adjusted person to persue a relationship with someone who has children, and to do it for the long run, not just a fling with a "milf". It's a hard thing for a man to have a life with another man's children, and you just have to understand that it's not for everyone.
My boyfreind is dealing with this, and I know it's hard for him, because he doesn't have any children and doesn't want to mess things up with me, but I told him from the start that I wasn't looking for a new father, she already has one, and he was in no way obligated to be her father, as long as he treats her well, as well as he would treat anyone else, things will work out if you really love someone. Plus it helps if your kid is one hell of a cutie!!
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If your going to ride my ass, at least pull my hair. Love, Cruisergirl.
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