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Harshaw,
I met my second wife on the internet. I used a singles site oriented to my church, so I was only seeing single woment there who shared a lot of what motivates me.
Sociologists say that emotional recovery from a loss of one's spouse takes 1 year for every five years you were together. Not to heal enough to date, but to heal enough to be ready to bond with someone new. Most women give themselves that long , and sometimes longer. Many man, even most men, to stop their hurting rush into some new relationship. Some new warm body in bed. But they don't get their loss processed emotionally by this, they just wall it off. That's not really healthy.
Encourage your dad to start slowly and be cautious about taking girlfriends to bed. He should give himself the 1 year for every 5 he was married, in order to heal. He'll make a much better choice of a second wife, if he does. And the chances of his second marriage being as good or better than his first will improve greatly.
But I know that when you're lonely and hurting, my sweet Lord, how good those ladies look. You could just eat them! MMMmmm, mmmmm.
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Trueheart
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