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I think that's about the worst thing he can do. All it's going to do is allow him to keep himself more and more secluded, away from friends and loved ones. Bring him out to places where people of his age group congregate. If he's religious, church is an excellent place. I'm sure you or he has a neighbor who knows SOMEONE nice looking for a little companionship.
Please keep in mind that the psychological scarring and turmoil of losing a spouse is way different and vastly more profound than anything else a person can deal with- not the death of a parent, sibling, or even child can measure up. He may start hanging out with some women, and then back down for a bit. If he does, be supportive of his temporary hiatuses- those are his mental brakes being applied. In his mind, he's grappling with the fact that he's "replacing" his beloved, even though HE KNOWS that's not really what's going on. It will fuck with him constantly. You seem like a loving son. Be there for him and, no matter what, it will all work out in the end. If he seems apprehensive about someone very promising, be honest with him. Tell him to just go and have a good time. That he's just doing it to meet someone nice, to share good time with.
Good luck, let us know...
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