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Originally posted by Kyo
But you must agree that somebody who has made such a mistake is not to be trusted as much as someone who has not.
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Not necessarily.
Maybe the person is confused. Maybe the alchohol affected their judgement.
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And some mistakes are easier to make than others - the severity of the offense must be taken into account.
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I agree. But the issue here is that I do
not believe that cheating once means that you
will cheat again. That's what the poster to whom I replied said.
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Most people, however, will go their entire lives without murdering someone - and murder, by definition, is a premeditated action, it can't be an accident. Therefore, we will treat a murderer with a high degree of caution
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Of course
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- it would be naive and idiotic to the point of suicide to do otherwise.
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Absolutely not. It would not be suicidal. It would either show naiety or trust or forgiveness. That is unless, of course, you do not believe in rehabilitation.
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It's also been said that having done something once makes it easier to do again. I've heard that this applies to heinous crimes as well as everyday habits and immoral behavior.
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This is true and I would not argue that point with you. But what's this got to do with the point of someone saying that "once a cheater, always a cheater" or some such sweeping generalization?
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Cheating is a premeditated action, and therefore falls closer to murder and rape than you would think.
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You live in a strange world if you think cheating is close to rape or murder.
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In all cases, it requires you to make a concious decision - in this case, the wrong one - about your actions. And you must make the decision with full knowledge that there is a right way and a wrong way.
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That's not being contested.
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How many times is it going to take before you become a serial offender?
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By definition, twice or more.
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Even if I murder 200 people, you can't say with any amount of certainty that I will kill another person. Maybe I was aiming for 200. Maybe I didn't have a goal but got tired of slaughter. It comes down to how much you can take, and really, one betrayal is one too many.
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Again, whilst an interesting point of view, this has nothing to do with my argument against someone saying that if you cheat once, you will definitely cheat again. Indeed, maybe you cheated on someone you
thought you loved, but afterward found true love and would never consider cheating. I know several people who fall into this category. That doesn't mean they WILL cheat on their new partner. Quite the opposite in many circumstances.
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Trust is like your mother's good china - extremely fragile, and very difficult to repair or replace.
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Heh... True.
But is someone's trust worth anything if it's rationed out and revoked in spiteful little packages?
Your theory on trust goes both ways. Does Sillygirl deserve the "trust" and "friendship" of anyone now that she has betrayed them both by going behind her so-called friend's back?
Who knows? Only she does.
I think she was wrong and I believe (though haven't counted) that most people agree with me.
Mr Mephisto