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perth1 · 10-27-2003, 02:27 AM

Hi All,

maybe you all can help me with a really stupid problem i have with my girlfriend.

First let me give you a little background on myself, sorry if it's long winded. When i was 19 i got with a girl that would be my partner for the next 5 years. I thought she was the one, so much so that we even got engaged! A week before my 24th b'day, after moving to london together, i suggested that we split up, and she didnt argue. it was pretty clear that we simply grew apart over the years. I had a stage of being an absolute stud (slut), and really came out of my shell. I managed to shag a girl pretty much every weekend, but just felt dirty for having done it. i guess i'm just not that sort of guy. i like to have a girl i can love, cherish and get to know really well. thats where my new girlfriend comes in. she is about 7 years younger than me, i'm 27, her 20. she lives about 1000 miles away and we see each other every fortnight if we're lucky, usually every month. Its going really well. Been seeing each other for about 8 months now and she makes me soooo happy!

the problem: she isnt half as affectionate as my old girlfriend. i really hate being a clingy soppy git, but around her i just cant help it. its really starting to upset me, because if she doesnt kiss me, or hold my hands or whatever in public, i go all weird and think i've done something wrong to fuck up the relationship, when i know in my heart that she is just like that. she just isnt affectionate as i would like. its drviving me nuts! i wish someone would just come and punch me in the face and tell me to wake up! you have a beautiful girlfriend who just recently told you she loves you, and when you;re not being a clingy twat, you have such a great time with her.

I guess i am just used to having myold girlfriend be so affectionate, that i kinda expect it from my new GF. the problem is, and she has told me this, is the fact that when i say she isnt being affectionate it makes her feel inadequate, and thats not my intention at all!

i dunno. i just need to wake the fuck up and smell the roses. i'm so frustrated with myself for being like that, but i just cant help it.

anyways, sorry for the long winded boring post. i guess i just needed to get it off my chest, and i dont really have any close friends that i can do that with in london.

any tips on how i can get over this? i mean, i love the girl to bits and it would be such a shame to let somehting as stupid as this get in between us. i cant seem to just swallow it and act as if's everything is normal though. the long distance between us doesnt help at all, when she's here (or i'm there) i crave her attention like a man possessed! ARGH!!!! FUCK!!!!!

hehe, thanks for listening (and sorry for the typos, needed to get this out quick from work!

10-27-2003, 02:27 AM	#1 (permalink)
perth1 Crazy	I'm lame, HELP! Hi All, maybe you all can help me with a really stupid problem i have with my girlfriend. First let me give you a little background on myself, sorry if it's long winded. When i was 19 i got with a girl that would be my partner for the next 5 years. I thought she was the one, so much so that we even got engaged! A week before my 24th b'day, after moving to london together, i suggested that we split up, and she didnt argue. it was pretty clear that we simply grew apart over the years. I had a stage of being an absolute stud (slut), and really came out of my shell. I managed to shag a girl pretty much every weekend, but just felt dirty for having done it. i guess i'm just not that sort of guy. i like to have a girl i can love, cherish and get to know really well. thats where my new girlfriend comes in. she is about 7 years younger than me, i'm 27, her 20. she lives about 1000 miles away and we see each other every fortnight if we're lucky, usually every month. Its going really well. Been seeing each other for about 8 months now and she makes me soooo happy! the problem: she isnt half as affectionate as my old girlfriend. i really hate being a clingy soppy git, but around her i just cant help it. its really starting to upset me, because if she doesnt kiss me, or hold my hands or whatever in public, i go all weird and think i've done something wrong to fuck up the relationship, when i know in my heart that she is just like that. she just isnt affectionate as i would like. its drviving me nuts! i wish someone would just come and punch me in the face and tell me to wake up! you have a beautiful girlfriend who just recently told you she loves you, and when you;re not being a clingy twat, you have such a great time with her. I guess i am just used to having myold girlfriend be so affectionate, that i kinda expect it from my new GF. the problem is, and she has told me this, is the fact that when i say she isnt being affectionate it makes her feel inadequate, and thats not my intention at all! i dunno. i just need to wake the fuck up and smell the roses. i'm so frustrated with myself for being like that, but i just cant help it. anyways, sorry for the long winded boring post. i guess i just needed to get it off my chest, and i dont really have any close friends that i can do that with in london. any tips on how i can get over this? i mean, i love the girl to bits and it would be such a shame to let somehting as stupid as this get in between us. i cant seem to just swallow it and act as if's everything is normal though. the long distance between us doesnt help at all, when she's here (or i'm there) i crave her attention like a man possessed! ARGH!!!! FUCK!!!!! hehe, thanks for listening (and sorry for the typos, needed to get this out quick from work!