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If he's going to find out - he should find out from you. Unless you are virtually certain he won't find out - I believe you must tell him. Although he doesn't want to hear it, he will respect the fact you told him before you are married. The aftermath will be uncertain for a long time. I would suggest that once you tell him, at some time appropriate, you watch it together. Let him ask questions, let him get it all off his chest so he can come to grips with it. The issue is multi-faceted and thus it will, no doubt take time to deal with. Be prepared for an unsettled future for a while. He will need to accept is is in your past and that it is there. You are the same person he loves, with or without his knowledge of the film. Hopefully he will accept this.
I disagree with those that say that if he can't accept it, he is not the right guy for you. You may not be the right girl for him. I don't mean this to be harsh whatsoever, indeed, I applaud your depth and foresight in raising this issue. I hope he can accept you for who you are, and like it or not, we are all the current version of our past. Good luck. Please let us know how this turns out.
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