I have pretty much bared my soul to my wife when it comes to things I have done in the past. She just says that whatever happened before we were married has no effect on us. The only issue is whether they might think this makes you a bad person. Sounding them out on the issue is a good idea, but sometimes it is hard to be subtle in a situation like that since the answer is going to be very important to you. On the other hand, guys can be pretty dense and you can hit them with a Mack truck and they might not notice.
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