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The only fair way to make such a decision is the child's own preference. If the child is too young to register an opinion, or if such a meeting is impossible, the ethical thing to do would be to let chance decide. That's the one truly disinterested method of making decisions, and as such, no matter <i>what</i> kind of pair the prospective parents are, it is the correct choice for resolving your dilemma.
By the by, I am in the situation described by Conclamo Ludus, only it was my mother who came out, when I was 14. I feel that, though the initial experience was traumatic, the resulting friendships, events and experiences from then up until the present more than make up for the shock. I am fiercely proud of having two sets of loving parents, who are happy in their new partnerships (my father remarried). No complaints whatsoever.
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"I would not dare to so dishonor my Creator God by attaching His name to that book (the Bible)." -- Thomas Paine
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