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One thing that she might find comforting, aside from your condolences, is the fact that he wasn't alone when he died.
After my brother was hit by a car this April he spent 2 weeks in a coma. My mom and grandma and I were all staying at his apartment, and the morning he died we got a call that he was coding. We were 15 minutes from the hospital, and all I could think of on the way there in the car was that he was going to die alone. It ripped my heart out. As it turns out, we got there and the doctors let me (but not my mom and grandma) in the very crowded room while they were still working on him, and I got to hold his hand and tell him it was ok, that we were there, and that it was ok for him to go. That has meant so much to me, that he wasn't alone when he went. That someone who recognized his humanity was there to send him on his way. Even if I hadn't gotten there in time, two of our favorite nurses were with him, and it would have comforted me to know that they were there. I know we all die "alone," really, but there's some comfort in knowing that someone's passing doesn't go unnoticed.
Best of luck, and I applaud your courage in saying anything. Little kindnesses like this really do make all the difference for someone who's going through a loss.
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