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Originally posted by Averett
Say you see a group of girls out in a bar. There are 3 maybe 4. But there is that one who caught your eye. Chances are, you're not going to approach her. Why? Cause of her friends. What if they make fun of you somehow? You don't want to go into a pack of girls like that.
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3 or 4 girls? Yeah, you're right, the friends would probably make fun of him. They are probably pissed off that you're getting all the attention!!
That's why you have to isolate the girl for better chances of success, or befriend whoever is likely to interfere your attempt to get to know the girl you are attracted to better. In addition, you can bring other people with you as a part of your own group (if they are any good) as social proof (e.g. you and a girl friend of yours who extroverted enough to approach people).
And to me, all that stuff is not just some rule. It's a method. Random efforts that lack method do not produce effective results.
Imagine, you befriend the girls in the group and one of them makes fun of you or snaps at you in a rude manner (which it originally would not be if you didn't befriend or disarm them first) after you begin to converse with the one girl in the group you were really attracted to... and then her remark would be viewed as immature, she wouldn't be in a position to repel you from your target.
As for the amount of time that you should wait before making the phonecall... I play it by ear.
