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Angel, I understand exactly what you are saying! I would say the thing I would change is having ever married my mentally abusive first husband. That I would have followed my instinct and not walked down the isle. But I did walk down it and I did it for the sake of the children. I felt giving my son the father he deserved and his children a mother was going to make everything turn out fine.
Well, our relationship sucked! But, my son did get to know his father -- as painful as that may have been. And I gained relationships with two more wonderful young men (whom I raised). In addition, I have my two awesome daughters to show for it. I also learned a lot about myself, what I value, and how I relate to other people.
So, trade the pain from the relationship -- absolutely!
Give away the good -- no way!
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