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sillygirl · 10-13-2003, 05:12 PM

So, my best friend of nine years got married Friday. Aaaaand, I'm not so sure it was the best thing for her.

Well, I set (I'll just choose names...) Suzie and Brandon up. They hit it off, and I was happy for them. Until I noticed things about their relationship that just weren't right.

Here's the kicker. She cheated on him at least twice before they got married. Once was the night he asked her if they could be exclusive. She and I went to a party, and she ended up with another guy all night. Then, a week later, she and I went to another party, and she ended up sleeping with yet another guy. But she wouldn't tell him. She said it would never come up. Said that she'd forget about it, so it didn't matter. That he didn't need to know. I tried talking to her, telling her that she can't look him in the eye and tell a bold-faced lie, that it was her responsibility to tell him. That if she didn't tell him now, he'd end up finding out eventually. She even disguised a hickey she got as a curling iron burn and put a bandaid over it. Poor sap believed her.

Well, enough people knew that "something" had happened at the party, and although they didn't know exactly what happened (except me and another guy), they knew he needed to know.

I talked to some guys about it, and asked for honest opinions. The response that I got from everyone was that he needed to know, and that I should tell him because I was closely involved in the situation. So I called him.

I told him the truth, he thanked me for calling.

I guess that my question to the guys is:

Would you rather be told, and have her end up being faithful the whole marriage, or not be told, and find out later on in the marriage when she gets drunk at a party without you and cheats again?

And girls: What would you have done?

10-13-2003, 05:12 PM	#1 (permalink)
sillygirl Newlywed Location: at home	Did I do the right thing? What would you have done? So, my best friend of nine years got married Friday. Aaaaand, I'm not so sure it was the best thing for her. Well, I set (I'll just choose names...) Suzie and Brandon up. They hit it off, and I was happy for them. Until I noticed things about their relationship that just weren't right. Here's the kicker. She cheated on him at least twice before they got married. Once was the night he asked her if they could be exclusive. She and I went to a party, and she ended up with another guy all night. Then, a week later, she and I went to another party, and she ended up sleeping with yet another guy. But she wouldn't tell him. She said it would never come up. Said that she'd forget about it, so it didn't matter. That he didn't need to know. I tried talking to her, telling her that she can't look him in the eye and tell a bold-faced lie, that it was her responsibility to tell him. That if she didn't tell him now, he'd end up finding out eventually. She even disguised a hickey she got as a curling iron burn and put a bandaid over it. Poor sap believed her. Well, enough people knew that "something" had happened at the party, and although they didn't know exactly what happened (except me and another guy), they knew he needed to know. I talked to some guys about it, and asked for honest opinions. The response that I got from everyone was that he needed to know, and that I should tell him because I was closely involved in the situation. So I called him. I told him the truth, he thanked me for calling. I guess that my question to the guys is: Would you rather be told, and have her end up being faithful the whole marriage, or not be told, and find out later on in the marriage when she gets drunk at a party without you and cheats again? And girls: What would you have done? __________________ Anyone can be passionate, but it takes real lovers to be silly-Rose Franken ....absence makes me miss him more...