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BonesCPA · 10-13-2003, 11:47 AM

This situation came up with a friend, and he couldn't find the right way to discuss it. I unwittingly helped him start the conversation after a group of us went to the movies - she had dressed in this really slinky dress with slits up both sides of the dress. I joked that she didn't have to dress sexy just to go to the movies with us, and she responded that she didn't - she wore that to work that day. She works in net design, so I couldn't believe it. Later he had a "conversation" with her. Since she was from Fla. and we were in PA, she blew it off as being the way she always dressed. He wasn't too happy, and she did change slightly, but not enough. (Of course she didn't eventually cheat on him - after breaking up only a couple of hours earlier. I don't want to suggest that your girl would do the same, this wasn't unusual for this girl.)

I would say that you bring it up, but not in a confrontational way. If you are having issues, and you want to keep a good relationship going, you need to be open and honest. I don't think that she gets a pass becuase you "put up" with it for two years, it didn't bother you before, now it does. People change, live with it.

10-13-2003, 11:47 AM	#18 (permalink)
BonesCPA No. It's not done yet. Location: sorta kinda phila	This situation came up with a friend, and he couldn't find the right way to discuss it. I unwittingly helped him start the conversation after a group of us went to the movies - she had dressed in this really slinky dress with slits up both sides of the dress. I joked that she didn't have to dress sexy just to go to the movies with us, and she responded that she didn't - she wore that to work that day. She works in net design, so I couldn't believe it. Later he had a "conversation" with her. Since she was from Fla. and we were in PA, she blew it off as being the way she always dressed. He wasn't too happy, and she did change slightly, but not enough. (Of course she didn't eventually cheat on him - after breaking up only a couple of hours earlier. I don't want to suggest that your girl would do the same, this wasn't unusual for this girl.) I would say that you bring it up, but not in a confrontational way. If you are having issues, and you want to keep a good relationship going, you need to be open and honest. I don't think that she gets a pass becuase you "put up" with it for two years, it didn't bother you before, now it does. People change, live with it. __________________ Back into hibernation. Last edited by BonesCPA; 10-13-2003 at 12:26 PM..