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I've been though this type of thing before and I really, honestly can't think of much else to say that hasn't already been said. When I found out one of my ex-partners had cheated, I asked everyone's advice, and then proceeded to shoot them all down. I didn't really want advice, I wanted an opportunity to prove I was still in control, and I did that by making up excuses and saying 'But... but...'. I knew deep down that it wouldn't work. A big reason was because she hurt me, but an even bigger reason was that I had told her that if she ever cheated again then I'd be out of there. From the moment I told her that I realized that she can cheat all she wants, she just won't tell me. Imagine having your partner say that to you, that if you ever cheat again, they're leaving you for good. If you cheated again, in a moment of weakness, drunkeness, or something like that, I'm sure you'd keep it to yourself. So from then on I was paranoid that she would cheat, and that she would never tell me, because she knew what my response would be. When I told her that if it happened again I was leaving, it didn't reassure me at all, it made me more distursting and more paranoid that she would continue cheating, and wouldn't tell me. And it turned out I was 110% correct in my fears.
I know I'm rambling, so...
My advice: quit making up excuses, just leave her.
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