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Those are good points, mb99usa. What I'm saying is that your desires, when non occupational, and are out of reach, work towards them, but don't let them completely control your life. Don't give up everything to go after a desire if that desire is not attainable right now. Such as, you like girl. Girl has boyfriend. Therefore girl = unattainable desire. Don't throw away everything else to go after her if she's not attainable right now. But don't sweep it under the rug and ignore that you ever liked her. Instead reconize you like her. Reconize she's unattainable. Become friends with her, but put that desire to have her away. Don't let it control you, and then check back in on it every so often. Check up with her and see if she still has a boyfriend every so often, and check in on yourself to see if you still want to date her. You can apply this to other things as well. Such as you want to buy that new car, but can't afford it. Don't obsess about not being able to afford it. Go about life working towards getting it. Once you have the money, then by all means, buy it. But while you were sitting on that desire to have it, working towards it, you may learn that you don't want that car after all. I hope that clearifies some things for you.
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