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MuadDib · 10-08-2003, 09:07 PM

Several questions. Were you in therapy before this happened or because this happened? How long have you been together? Has she cheated before? Have you cheated before? What do you think it would take to trust her again? Do you want revenge in any way?

Don't beat on yourself. What happened is NOT your fault and you are NOT a doormat for trying to make it work. Some relationships can and should be saved after infidelity. On the other hand, many shouldn't. Pry the most important question I want answered to give you valid advice is do you want to save this relationship? why? (if your answer is something akin to "because I love her" tell me why you feel that way)

10-08-2003, 09:07 PM	#9 (permalink)
MuadDib Psycho	Several questions. Were you in therapy before this happened or because this happened? How long have you been together? Has she cheated before? Have you cheated before? What do you think it would take to trust her again? Do you want revenge in any way? Don't beat on yourself. What happened is NOT your fault and you are NOT a doormat for trying to make it work. Some relationships can and should be saved after infidelity. On the other hand, many shouldn't. Pry the most important question I want answered to give you valid advice is do you want to save this relationship? why? (if your answer is something akin to "because I love her" tell me why you feel that way) __________________ "The courts that first rode the warhorse of virtual representation into battle on the res judicata front invested their steed with near-magical properties." ~27 F.3d 751 Last edited by MuadDib; 10-09-2003 at 04:13 AM..