You can't totally judge someone based on responses to extreme stress. Just because she acted a certain way when she was scared, confused, and possibly feeling alone it doesn't mean that she would act the same way in the future.
I went through a very similar situation this year and I could have easily said forget it, it's not worth it, but all the good times and the great things about my girlfriend kept me from giving up. We are far closer now than we have ever been and we will soon get engaged. Continue to communicate with her and give it time if you really want to spend the rest of your life with her.
You don't detail what it was that has turned you off to her. You also need to take some blame in this since the way you act/react plays a big part in how she acts/reacts. It's not easy and it will take a lot of work on both your parts. The payoff could be huge if you find that it has brought you closer together. The other side of it is you may find out that your relationship can't be fixed. Better to find out now before you get married than 20 years down the road after resentment/anger grows to hatred.
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