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An ex cheated on me a few times. Within the first few weeks of us going out she had sex with the guy, but I didn't know that. The way she worded it when she told me straight away made me believe she had only kissed him or been hanging around with him. Months later she briefly mentioned that she had had sex with him back then, and I was so ashamed and embarrased that I didn't realize it all along. She thought I knew she had had sex, I thought she had just kissed him.
Another time she came crying to me and said she thought she kissed some guy at a party, but she was drunk and wasn't sure if she had or not. I was very pissed off, was about to leave, but she called the guy and asked him if they had kissed, but the way she worded it ("My boyfriend wants to know if you and I kissed last night?"), and the supposed answer 'No' didn't exactly fill me with confidence that she was telling the truth. From then on, until we broke up, I never trusted her, but was too weak to break up with her over it.
Sorry about that little story, but I guess my answers are:
1) I would want to know that she had cheated, I'm not sure if I would really want to know how far she had gone.
2) I could never forgive my partner for cheating, no matter what the circumstances. I wouldn't want to forget that it ever happened, I'd want it to never have happened. But since that's impossible I'll have to say that if my partner ever cheated on me then that's it, I'm gone.
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