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Originally posted by anti fishstick
i can relate with being masochistic. i think it goes both ways. both for the male "groupie" as you say, AND the women who keep them. it's not a healthy exchange. even though i may claim to be empowered and 'in control', chances are, it doesn't quite work that way. emotion still always gets the better of me... so i may 'win', but i LOSE big time.. for i also rob myself of being truly close with someone.
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Yeah personally I don't understand it either. On one hand, I get sex with multiple partners. But on the other I don't ever get to fully explore that person. I mean -I usually don't get a date past the sex. It's quite a quandry. See the next post... I'll explain just what happens if I
don't have sex with these women.
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Originally posted by anti fishstick
yes. it is definately a choice you know you're taking. you keep getting yourself into the same situations. it's easy for people to fall into the same patterns. the key is to recognize them (awareness). once you're conscious about it, it becomes an active choice to either stay in it or change accordingly.
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Sure, admission is the first step to recovery. But I'm really not quite ready to change. If I try to avoid these situations, I don't meet women. Or worse, I meet someone who is not interested in my sexuality. (
shudder).
Whatever the case, I become unhappy just spanking it or secretly vying for hot action.
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Originally posted by anti fishstick
im glad i've inspired you to self reflect if at all 
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Ahh, you know these things are bound to happen.