I have a friend whos brother came out and he told all of us that it really bothered him when we said things like "that is gay" or "stfu fag" So I tried to make an effort to stop it and man it is hard to stop using words like that... sometimes it just slips out
I guess I don't really think of it as bashing persons who chose that lifestyle. I agree on what rock_bottom said, Alot of it is figure of speech and not ment in a bad way.